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Introduction

Manual Overview

BOOK I: Faith Community Curriculum for Clergy and Lay Leaders

BOOK II: Family Violence: Helping Survivors and Abusers – A Manual for Faith Communities
Purpose
Definitions
Survivors:
   - Characteristics

   - Indicators of Abuse
   - Actions to Consider
   - Safety Concerns
   - Crisis Counseling and
      Spiritual Support

   - Asking a question:
      Is your partner hurting you?

Abusers (batterers):
   - Understanding Abusers

   - Interventions
   - Treatment
   - Safety Issues
   - Use of Scripture
Marriage and Relationship:
Understanding Scripture Intent

Marriage Preparation:
   - Key Elements

   - Early Warning Signs
   - I Corinthians 13
Supportive background materials:
   - ABC's of Men Who Batter

   - Abuser Quotes
   - Myths About Abusers
   - Self-Assessment Tool
   - Alexandra House Safety Plan
   - Checklist - What to take
     when you leave

Minnesota Metro
Community Resources

Sources and Acknowledgments

BOOK III: Pastor’s Packet: Family Violence Awareness Materials for Pastors

BOOK IV: Curriculum for Laity

Appendix

Indicators of Possible Abuse

Behavioral signs or "Red Flags" that may suggest violence in the home:

In the faith community:

  • a decline or change in routine in church attendance or activities
  • refusing or denying contact from clergy or other church members
  • lack of eye contact or intentional avoidance at religious services or other activities
  • statements in which the individual questions God, His sovereignty, His love or existence. This may be particularly significant if the person appears to be struggling with this on an experiential level.

In the home:

  • have a high risk for drug and alcohol additions
  • exhibit stress disorders, depression and psychosomatic complaints
  • have a history of frequent illnesses or hospitalizations
  • depression, suicide attempt
  • pregnancy complications (premature labor, miscarriage, bleeding)
  • chronic pain: headache, chest, abdomen, pelvic, back
  • series of injuries
  • bruises with patterns (cigarettes, shoes, belt buckles, cords, hands, fingertips)
  • many seemingly minor but continual and/or varied physical problems
  • delay in seeking treatment OR doesn't seek treatment for serious injury
  • injury doesn't fit with person's or others' description
  • inappropriate clothing

Associated with the abusive partner:

  • person flinches in presence of partner
  • partner is excessively attentive and responsive to person
  • person seeks permission from partner
  • person demonstrates increased anxiety in presence of partner
  • refusal of partner to leave person alone