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Introduction

Manual Overview

BOOK I: Faith Community Curriculum for Clergy and Lay Leaders

BOOK II: Family Violence: Helping Survivors and Abusers
A Manual for Faith Communities

BOOK III: Pastor’s Packet: Family Violence Awareness Materials for Pastors

BOOK IV: Curriculum for Laity
Part 1-A Opening Comments

  - Honor survivors in attendance
  - Definitions
  - Incidence of battering
  - Violence in scripture

Part 1-B Dynamics
  - Power and control
  - Why people stay

Part 1-C Myths
Part 1-D Questions & Answers,   Discussion
Part 2-A Opening Comments
  - Questions or thoughts
    from last segment

Part 2-B How Individuals
   Can Help

  - Victim/survivors
  - Abusers
  - Teens and children

Part 2-C How Faith Communities
  Can Help

Part 2-D Closure: The Good   Samaritan
Participant Handouts

Appendix

Part 1-A: Opening Comments

Desired Time

  • 5 to 10 minutes

Purpose

  • Provide support for survivors in the audience
  • Define violence
  • Make a note of examples of violence in scripture

Strategies

  • Discussion

Content

  • Opening comments
  • Introduce speaker(s) and welcome attendees
  • Honor survivors

Acknowledge survivors and/or participants who are touched in a personal way by violence in the home. Make a sincere, supportive statement such as:
"Whenever a group of any size gathers, survivors or those who have been touched by family violence are present. I want you to know that I am sorry this has happened or is happening to you or someone you care about. No one deserves to be intentionally hurt; you did not cause it."

Emphasize the faith community member's role in helping people in abusive relationships.

Refer to "Statistics" (pdf 496KB) sheet and state:
"People may not realize it, but one in four women and one in seven men statistically have a history of physical, sexual or emotional abuse in their lifetime."

Define violence:

"One way of defining violence is to say it is words and actions that hurt others. Another is to say that violence may be defined in various ways. Not everyone considers coercion and intimidation to be violent. A more comprehensive version is one from the Health Care Coalition on Violence. Note that this definition emphasizes threatened or actual use of force, and can be behavior that results in emotional damage or coerced behavior as well as injury."

Ask if anyone can think of scriptural examples of violence.

The speaker should prepare for this segment by reading and reflecting on one or more of the following, and be prepared to discuss these examples.

Briefly discuss. Examples include:

  • Genesis 4: Cain & Abel
  • Genesis 37: Joseph
  • Luke 22 & 23: Jesus